Hambalyo! Waxaad ku soo biirtay dunida hooyada haysata labada ilmo ee yaryar. In kasta oo ay tahay farxad weyn, haddana waxaa jira caqabad weyn oo soo wajahda hooyo kasta: Masayrka ilmaha ka weyn (Toddler Jealousy).
Ilmaha labo sanno jirka ah weli ma yaqaanno sidii uu u muujin lahaa dareenkiisa, wuxuu u arkaa in ilmaha yar ee dhashay uu ka qabsaday booskii iyo jacaylkii hooyada. Halkii uu odhan lahaa "Hooyo waan ku tebayaa", wuxuu bilaabaa dabeecado adag si uu dareenkaaga u soo jiito.
Haddaba, sidee u xallin kartaa arrintan adiga oo ilaalinaya dareenka ilmahaaga labada sanno jirka ah? Halkan waxan idinku so gudbinayaa 4 tillaabo oo dahabi ah:
1. Ku Geli "Shaqada Walaalka Weyn" (Make Them Your Helper)
Halkii aad odhan lahayd "Ka fogow ilmaha yar" ama "Ha taaban", ka dhig ilmahaaga weyn caawiyahaaga koowaad.
- U sheeg inuu ku keeno xafaayadda (diaper-ka).
- Ka codso inuu u heeso ama u ruxruxo alaabta carruurta si uu ilmaha yar u qaboojiyo.
- Tani waxay ku beeraysaa kalsooni, wuxuuna dareemayaa inuu yahay "Walaalka weyn" ee muhiimka ah, halkii uu ka dareemi lahaa in meesha laga saaray.
2. Sii "Wakhti Khaas Ah" Oo Adiga Iyo Isaga Keliya Ah (One-on-One Time)
In kasta oo aad ku mashquulsan tahay ilmaha yar, isku day inaad maalinkii ugu yaraan 15 ilaa 20 daqiiqo siiso ilmahaaga labo sanno jirka ah adiga oo aan gacanta ku hayn ilmaha yar.
- Waqtigaas la akhri buug, la ciyaar alaabtiisa, ama la sheekayso.
- U sheeg: "Waqtigani waa waqtigii aniga iyo adiga keliya". Tani waxay buuxinaysaa weelkiisa dareenka (emotional tank), waxayna ka dhimaysaa baahida uu u qabo inuu dabeecad xumo dareen ku raadiyo.
3. Ha Beddelin Jadwalkiisii Hore (Maintain Routines)
Ilmuhu waxay ku degaa nidaamka iyo jadwalka joogtada ah. Haddii uu ilmaha yar dhashay awgiis isbeddel ku yimaado waqtigii uu seexan jiray, waqtigii uu cuni jiray, ama meeshii uu seexan jiray, wuxuu dareemayaa deganaan la'aan. Isku day inaad ilaaliso jadwalkiisii hore si uu u dareemo guri ammaan ah.
4. Aqbal Oo Magacaw Dareenkiisa (Validate Their Feelings)
Haddii ilmahaaga 2 sanno jirka ahi uu cadhoodo ama ooyo, ha odhan "Ha ooyin waxba ma dhicine". Beddelkeeda u muuji inaad fahamsan tahay:
- Ku dheh: "Waan ogahay inaad rabto inaan hadda kula ciyaaro, laakiin marka aan dhammaystiro waan kuu imanayaa".
- Markay dareemaan in la maqlo, cadhadu wey ka degtaa.
Gunaanad:
Masayrku waa weji dabiici ah oo soo mara carruurta, mana aha inuu kugu keeno culays maskaxeed. Jacayl dheeraad ah, dulqaad, iyo inaad dareensiiso inuu weli yahay laf-dhabarta guriga ayaa ah fure kasta oo lagu dejiyo ilmo 2 sanno jir ah.
Hooyo mcna, adigu dhibkan ma la kulantay? Sidee u maareysay? Nagula wadaag faallada (comments) si ay hooyooyinka kale uga faaideystaan!
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